Are You Ready To Get Married? 5 Signs That Say 'Yes!'

W hen you ask yourself ‘are you ready to get married?’ The answer isn’t always that simple and more often than not, passion isn’t the only indicator if you are.

You need to consider a whole array of factors, decide if you’re truly in the right time of life, and see who your ‘till death do us part’ recipient is the right one. With divorce rates as high as they are, making absolutely certain is crucial. 

So here are five signs that you are ready to say yes and make that big step. 

1. You’re Financially Stable 

Financial stability is a huge factor that most people overlook when deciding if they’re ready to get married. Running a household isn’t always easy, even with a partner.

Now you need to consider the needs of two people instead of one, see if you’re in the right position to do so and if you have enough saved for any big decisions you might make. It’s a good idea to be living alone before you decide to answer the big question since that allows you to experience what it’s like to be able to run a household. 

Make certain that you can afford all the expenses, whether it’s for the ceremony, getting a house together, or any other decisions you make together. 

2. You’re Mentally Prepared 

Childhood and adult life leave us with traumas we don’t even realize we have until we’re married and we find ourselves acting as our parents did. It’s generally a good idea to go into therapy in your adult life to begin the process of healing, especially before you get married, to truly make certain that you’re not going to be affecting your partner, and children if you have any, negatively. 

Marriage isn’t just a wedding, it’s a lifelong commitment and an agreement that says that you are both going to be solving your problems together and working with each other to make a good life for yourself. If you have commitment issues or trust issues, you might not be mentally prepared to take that on just yet. 

3. You Share The Same Values As Your Partner 

Dating is different from spending your life together and you need to make sure you have the same moral and ethical values as your partner, especially when it comes to living together. What boundaries do you set for each other? What is your stance on working late and is your partner okay with it? What do you expect from them once you are married? These questions are crucial to consider before tying the knot. Moreover, you also need to make sure you’re on the same page with how you view society and your ethical values. 

While dating can lead you to brush over some of those values, marriage will bring them out into the open and challenge you both so make sure you are marrying someone with the same ideals and political views as yourself. 

4. You Share The Same Thoughts On Your Life Together

If you’re someone who isn’t ready to have children until you’re past thirty but your partner wants to try as soon as possible, that can cause a huge rift in your relationship. Make sure your partner has the same milestones and goals planned as you, you’re working on a similar timeline and want the same things. Otherwise, this can lead to huge pressures and can potentially break up a marriage as well. 

You need to make absolutely certain that the conversation you have is honest and true and aligns with your own thoughts of big questions like getting a bigger place, pets, children, and other things to run a household together. 

5. You’re Doing It Because You Want To, Not Because Of Other Pressures 

Oftentimes, we end up making big decisions for ourselves because we feel that they are what we should be doing rather than what we want to do. If you’re feeling like time is running out for you or that you’ll never find a decent partner, don’t get married. Only do it because you want to and because you feel this is the right decision for yourself. Despite all external pressures, these are questions only you can answer, not the expectations of others. 

So do you want to be married? Are you ready to take on what comes with that commitment? 

In the end, remember that marriage is a choice, not a necessity, and not something that you have to do. If you’re willing to not be married and simply be in a relationship or even on your own for your life, that’s perfectly fine!

However, if you do want to get married, search for the best and not just settle. Make sure everything is aligning right and you’re not brushing over issues in a rush. Honestly, are you ready to get married? We hope you are able to answer that question!